Physically, baby girl is stretching my lower ligaments like nobody's business. When I told my mom I didn't remember this much pain last time, she said I wouldn't because it's a second baby thing. But it hurts to even stand, to walk. Carrying Brayden? Forget it. And the poor kid loves his mama lately, and it is hard to say no. I am taking regular tylenol as needed and warm baths and night. I think I just need to listen to my body, but there is SO much going on right now- I am just plugging away through the days. *sigh*
Mentally and emotionally, working and juggling Brayden with no real plan for him for each day has been tough. Working from home is not going like any of us thought (mostly due to some program issues) so I am really feeling the pressure at work. BUT since we didn't plan for it, I obviously didn't plan for Brayden's care thinking that I could work during nap time. That is proving to not be enough time to keep up, so it's been pretty draining trying to get to work. And just because busy season is here doesn't mean that I feel good about adding the chaos into Brayden's life.
On top of that, our pediatrician confirmed what we already knew: Brayden is speech delayed. I knew this was coming, I mean the kid just said momma for the first time 2 weeks ago. His other word? Dada. That's it. But hearing it from his doctor? Just kind of hurt. We are in the process of getting him an evaluation through Easter Seals. More to come on this.
And I miss my husband. Because we haven't even really seen much of each other, let alone talked about most of this stuff. We are so blessed with this business and the flexibility of it throughout the entire year, but this last week has been rough. I am just praying that we all get through it, and that I can hold myself together until this storm in life has passed.
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Hang in there! It sounds like you're a great Mama and I can tell you adore Brayden.I'm sorry about the speech delay. I bet that makes your heart hurt! But I have to say that from reading your blog Brayden sounds like a very smart, active little boy and I'm sure you will be able to help him as needed.
About your ligament pain. I don't know exactly where you are hurting but during my pregnancy I endured something called Symphysis Pubic Dysfunction, or SPD. It's very painful, and I don't know if that's what you're feeling but you might look into it. Even if you don't have SPD you might look into chiropractic care--it worked wonders for my pain and I plan to go regularly the next time I get pregnant!
Oh, I bet it was a shock at first, but I am sure you will figure it out and everything will be fine! Just give it some time and all will work out!
I can only imagine how hard it must be having a toddler and being preggo and having to balance everything with work! You are a strong women, you can do it!
Have a wonderful weekend - hope you get some realxing time!
Hugs xxx
Oh Sweetie, I'm so sorry, it just sounds like so much is on your plate right now. My heart feels heavy for you ... you're in my prayers. Everything will work itself out, just hang in there and try to rest when you can. xxoo.
so sorry to hear all this julie. you've got a lot going on. i hope you can have a nice, relaxing weekend spending some time with your hubby! it'll all work itself out!
My little boy has had speech problems as well. It will work it self out in time (as it has with my son who is almost 4 now).
I had a lot of pain with my second pregnancy as well. Most nights all i could do was lie in a warm bath - it did help.
I pray things will become more managable for you and that you get to spend some much needed time with your hubby xx
You are doing great Julie! You've got a lot on your plate right now and third trimester is just plain...hard work. I remember asking Dave quite often if we could go to bed at like 7:45 at night. With a toddler I am sure that is hard to take care of yourself. We also have been having a hard time lately here. Dave is working full time plus extra hours this week. I am working extra hours to prepare for taking vacation soon so Abbie is going to daycare more, therefore has more crap to get ready. Dave can't help me do anything cause he is so busy and I am trying to pack at the same time. To get through feeling overwhelmed? Well...first of all I haven't been extremely happy this week. I have tried to seek joy and sometimes I have it sometimes I don't, but the other times I am just plain tired. I've been trying not too focus on how long this may take to get through and instead focus on one day at a time. It's way less overwhelming! Ask God for strength. He'll never give you anything you cannot handle and he has prepared you for this moment. Just cast your burdens on him Julie. He wants to do it for you! Keep your chin up hon. You are doing a great job!
I could have written this myself and I want you to know it won't get easier but Brady has somehow adjusted. He knows I can't pick him up as much and he snuggles with me when I just can't go anymore. It is all worth it and you and I both know it.
As for the speech thing, hang in there. It is boys, it is normal, and it will be okay. Is EI not an option?
So, sorry lady! Hang in there!
Aww...I'm sorry you've had such a tough week. Go easy on yourself, you've go a lot going on. My second and third pregnancies were so much tougher on my body than my first. It's like you body senses the hormones and all the muscles relax WAY too much, which caused all my pain.
Things will all fall into place. I promise!
I don't have any advice but I hope things get better!
Oh sweetheart, I'm so sorry. Thank you for sharing, I'll definitely be praying!
Big hugs, sweetie... "This too shall pass".. Keep praying, and He WILL get you through.. ♥
Hang in there. I have heard the ligament pain gets worse & certainly am praying you get relief soon! As much as hearing the words from the pediatrician hurt, find strength in them. It's better to be noticed now. Many states offer free therapy for a number of things including speech to ensure children are up to speed when they are ready for school. This could very well be the difference in overcoming this challenge now versus the frustration of when he's older & falling behind his peers. ((HUGS)) Thinking of you all.
If the pain gets worse with a second pregnancy, I don't know that Baby L is going to have a sibling. I've been laying on the couch all day today, trying to keep the pressure off my pelvis and trying to keep the pains at bay. I'm really quite miserable and I'm so sorry to hear that you are, too.
As for Brayden's speech delay--there are so many things on your side (you're not in denial, your pediatrician noticed it, you have a supportive hubby & you are an amazing mama). Things will work out just as they should--I just know the timing is a bit difficult right now :( Hang in there & I'll keep you in prayer.
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